What is your story? Or in other words, what made you your awesome self you are today?
Weight loss surgery 2013- lost 135 lbs –Major life event for me. I began a transformation mentally as well as physically. I promised myself I would not hold back anymore, I would try new things and most importantly, show my daughter that women can do anything they put their mind to. I learned through this that having confidence isn’t bragging, or showing off, or asking for attention, it is being true to yourself.
What message do you promote?
Summer 2019 we had a “girls trip” which included my 15-year-old daughter, Mallory, and her friend Riley. I challenged them to give 5 complete strangers a compliment. Not the normal “I like your shirt” compliment, but something that would really brighten someone’s day. Neither had ever done anything like this so the challenge was set. Once the first compliment left their mouths, they were hooked. They were walking up to people and just giving them the kindest compliments and the reactions from strangers would give you goosebumps. (and it also got us free coffee, free cookies, and makeup samples)
Once in awhile, women need to hear compliments or appreciation for being who they are. The lesson my daughter and her friend learned that day will forever stick with them and they still talk about how awesome that day was. If we all did that every single day, I believe we could really lead one another up, pick each other up when we are down.
I feel I promote acts of kindness, laughter, and being approachable despite my failures, and my filthy mouth sometimes. People are drawn to REAL. Be REAL.
In what capacity do you LEAD UP in your community?
Recently I began an Open Mic Night at a local coffee shop, this gives individuals a chance to shine, an opportunity to express themselves through a song or an instrument. It is important to get out there and try something new and outside of your comfort zone.
In business and/or in life, share a struggle you overcame that other women can relate to.
Back to the weight loss – When I lost all that weight, I thought life would be so much better. I seriously thought that everything would be easier for me.
I enjoyed buying smaller clothes, going out with friends, feeling pretty and sexy for the first time in……FOREVER. However, inside I felt uncomfortable. I struggled with no longer being large and in charge, I felt like my boldness was gone.
I struggled with withholding my silly and personable personality b/c i didn’t want my husband to be jealous of the attention I was receiving with this new image (that I have always received)..yes, with weight loss and a spouse, jealousy is there.
Time and communicating helped that but I still struggle at times.
What is the most rewarding aspect of what you do?
In my role at an OB-Gyn practice, I listen and talk with women daily or even outside of the office and I try to encourage them. Listening is the key, sometimes they just want someone to listen. When they leave laughing I know my work is done.
How do you SHOW UP?
I talk to myself often, I push myself. I surround myself with people that encourage me and support me and most importantly to me, trying to be my daughter’s hero/role model.
If you could give one piece of advice for women who are entering the workforce or launching their own business what would that be?
You will get what you give.
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