#Thrive Thursday: Meet Carmen Payne, SOAR! Transformational Life Coach

thrive thursday Jan 28, 2021

What is your story? Or, in other words, what made you your awesome self you are today?

I was born to a teenage mother who was frog marched down the aisle to marry my biological father. My arrival into this world was scandalous for my very Mediterranean Roman Catholic family back in the early ’70s. My family at the time were recently emigrated from Malta, living in England. Shortly after my sister was born, about 18 months later, our parents moved back to Malta. This was short-lived, as my father was abusive, and our mother made the decision to move back to England to have the support of her family. Just before my tenth birthday, my mother was killed crossing the road leaving my sister, and by this time, our baby brother and I orphaned. After being in the foster care system, we were eventually adopted by our mother’s sisters and their husbands.    

This whole experience formed who I am today and how I show up in the world. 


What message do you promote?

My message changes and evolves; currently, it is “Be Love.” I think this is important right now with what is going on globally and locally wherever you live. Showing up and being love no matter how difficult it can sometimes help to heal and move us forward.  “To know each other is the best way to understand each other. To understand each other is the only way to love each other.” Michelangelo 


In what capacity do you LEAD UP in your community?

In my community, I lead a team of 27 people; I try to show up every day in service, leading with my heart. I also volunteer time and/or money to local non-profits such as; Fresh Start Women’s Foundation, Sojourner Center (domestic violence shelter), Phoenix Rescue Mission, St. Mary’s Food Bank, AZ Humane Society, and have delivered multiple pro-bono speaking engagements to local Project Management Institute chapters. Most recently, I just applied to volunteer for Returning Peace Corps Veteran’s Phoenix. Online I post short videos to FaceBook and LinkedIn to help people through this challenging time. 


In business and/or in life, share a struggle you overcame that other women can relate to

Since my early 30’s, I have been on a journey of overcoming my beliefs around self-worth and self-love. So much of my childhood, I felt like I always had to prove myself to be loved or be in service to my own detriment to be worthy of love and respect. I carried a lot of shame around my arrival into this world and felt like a burden to those who were taking care of me, even though I know they love me very much. I really appreciate what I do today: I have completed a lot of introspective work, had many teachers and mentors for whom I am extremely grateful, and it has really helped me see me for who I truly am and the value worth I bring to the table. 


What is the most rewarding aspect of what you do?

There are many rewarding aspects to what I do as a leader, coach, and speaker! The one that I strongly resonate with is when a client or one or two people in the audience have that “light bulb” moment in their eyes. Where they can see many possibilities or shed the perspective that may have been keeping them stuck in a program/limiting belief, all of a sudden, the veil is pulled back, and they can truly “see” what is possible for them. It’s awe-inspiring. 


How do you SHOW UP?

As I mentioned earlier, I try to emanate love. I do my best to literally walk my keynote speech, “Leading with Your Heart.” I always find it amazing when I witness what comes back to me when I practice my five fundamentals of this talk; 

  1. Lead with Love
  2. Influence positively
  3. Be Curious
  4. Use your words wisely.
  5. Empower others, thus empowering yourself


If you could give one piece of advice for women who are entering the workforce or launching their own business what would that be? 

Remember who you are, be bold, listen to your OWN voice, tune into your heart and let your heart’s wisdom lead the way. 


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