What is your story? Or in other words, what made you your awesome self you are today?
At the age of 47 years old, I was probably at one of the lowest points of my life. I truly believed my time had come and gone, my ship had sailed, and frankly, it was too late for me to make any sort of difference in the world.
However, on the outside, I appeared to have it all.
The perfect life. Two college degrees, a 22-year career as a successful Physical Therapist, a loving husband who is a physician, 3 healthy children, and the ability to travel and work part-time. What could possibly be wrong? How ungrateful must I be?
Well, on the inside, I had lost my sparkle. Aside from being a great mom, a devoted wife, and a caring Physical Therapist, I had no idea who I truly was. I lacked passion, fulfillment, and purpose. I knew in the depth of my soul, I had gifts and talents that I wasn’t tapping into. And as the years passed, I carried a growing sense of anxiety, feeling depressed, and an overall lack of joy.
Weight gain (to the tune of 15lbs) and excessive alcohol use (that I passed off as having some fun and blowing off steam) followed, as I attempted to fill this void I was carrying, which further spiraled me into a dark place.
My husband mentioned to me that he came upon a wellness program that we could do from home and from what he could see, the results people were getting were fantastic. It was affordable, doable, and not only could get the weight off (yay, peri-menopause!) but could offer you a complete mental transformation. We had always been active-hitting the gym consistently, had a knowledge of what to eat, what not to eat, yet our results weren’t reflecting that.
I was in. After completing two 21-day challenges they offered, and then a seemingly insurmountable 80-day challenge (involving 80 workouts and a healthy, balanced nutrition plan ), my body was unrecognizable. I was in better shape at 47 than I had been at 27. But it was the mental and emotional transformation that shocked me. It literally brought me to my knees in a pool of tears, after I completed workout 80 that Saturday.
I got my sparkle back. I had found belief in myself again. I had found self-love. I could do hard things. I could persevere and make difficult changes. I could show up. I had found my purpose. I needed to share this message with all the women out there, suffering like me, who felt that their ship had sailed, that they were stagnant, that had completely lost their identity to “mom” and “wife” and “employee”.
And it would start with their wellness. I would be their coach. I could and would lead the way. I dove in headfirst, not having a clue what I was doing, but I just knew that I had to fulfill this burning desire and it would work out somehow. I partnered with Beachbody that day (on day 80!) as an affiliate for their incredible wellness solutions, and 16 months later, I haven’t looked back.
Coaching has changed my life in the best possible way.
It has given me a career I am passionate about! (I left my 22-year career as a Physical Therapist this past December 2019 to be a full-time wellness coach!) It has given me daily accountability for my own wellness (at 48 I have never looked or felt better), it has given me the platform to inspire 100’s of women to get fit and healthy. It has given multiple women a new flexible career, where they can work from anywhere, set their own hours and earn extra income, via my mentorship program, and inspire 100’s of women in their own circle.
I now run a women-only online community called The Grit Girl Club that is growing daily! The Grit Girl Club is a safe place for women that offers accountability in the way of workout challenges plus a myriad of resources that have a monthly live expert on mindset, nutrition, meal plans, and biz mentorship. (link below!)
The ripple effect....
But the absolute BEST part has been giving women their sparkle back. Planting the seed that she has NOT missed her boat! That her ship has NOT sailed. And that her purpose CAN be fulfilled.
And THAT is my story.
And I’m sticking to it!
What message do you promote?
My mission has been from day one: To inspire women on a massive scale to be the absolute best version of themselves, through authenticity, compassion, and humor.
Be authentic and be kind!
In light of the global pandemic we are experiencing, I believe now more than ever, is the time to strip down to who we are. We are being forced to anyhow, right? (true hair color is one way!)
People are hurting right now-and one way I have found to connect and lift, is to start with being vulnerable myself. People are more likely to share, open, and connect when they feel safe and “like” someone else.
If you stick to both of those seemingly simple principles, life will unfold in the best way possible. They aren’t easy! But they are simple. It takes a lot of unwrapping and peeling of the onion (to figure out exactly who our “authentic self” is-but I do believe when you start with putting yourself first with your wellness), it begins to reveal itself rather quickly. When you add kindness to the mix, the universe starts to listen and reward you with clues as to where you deserve to be. It’s then up to you to listen :)
In what capacity do you LEAD UP in your community?
90% of my influence comes from my social media presence. I post multiple times on my Instagram stories, a daily post in my grid, my Facebook page, and my personal Facebook profile. I am consistent in my messaging and branding and mission and my audience seems to have responded! I post snippets of my wellness programs (workouts, healthy nutrition) I make book and podcast recommendations, I show my daily life-that includes the raw truth about what I’m going through unfiltered, I promote therapy, couples therapy and so on!
In business and/or in life, share a struggle you overcame that other women can relate to.
When my son was 2 years old, I got divorced and was a single mother for 8 years. I lived in Tucson Arizona, while my entire family was in Canada. It was one of the hardest periods of my life and there were days I barely made it through. But somehow I did. And today I have a healthy, thriving 14-year-old son. His father and I have made every effort to be peaceful and positive role models for Aiden-and we have. It has paid off!
In business, when I started a coaching business I had NO EXPERIENCE IN whatsoever! I really didn’t have a clue what I was doing. But my team is ranked #1 in Canada and provided me with the best training possible. Coupled with a good work ethic, I have been very successful thus far.
What is the most rewarding aspect of what you do?
As I mentioned earlier, it is leading women from a dark place, where they feel lost, unattractive, and unloveable-and planting a seed, a small spark, they are enough. That they have their own unique purpose, talents, and gifts. To witness their transformations over an over again, to get that daily text message that says, “oh my goodness, I am wearing shorts for the first time in 20 years....or...”I just helped 2 women today find their self-belief again!”.... is euphoric frankly.
How do you SHOW UP?
As ME, consistently. Good, bad, or ugly! Dressed to kill, or no makeup and sweats. Happy and inspiring, or having a tough day and a tad negative. My goal is to never alienate anyone who is watching me or following-but to inspire, relate, and encourage.
If you could give one piece of advice for women who are entering the workforce or launching their own business what would that be?
One only? haha...
Be consistent in your efforts. Whatever that looks like for you. One of the best books I ever read is called “The Slight Edge”. It talks about our daily small habits and how they add up over time. If you show up consistently to your business, over time it will build and bring you success!
How to connect with Deborah:
That's right! This gratitude journal is created for you to spend a minimum of 10 minutes a day on YOU! I call it “me time”! YOU are the most important person in your life. YOU need to be the strongest and best YOU so that you can serve others and live in your purpose the way YOU choose.