This past year has been very challenging, to say the least. Unfortunately, I’ve seen some people in the personal development sphere acting like all you need to do is Think Positive, as if breaking down and struggling with fear and grief and anger is some kind of character flaw.
It’s not. It’s human.
On the flip side, there’s also been the backlash against this so-call Toxic Positivity. People accuse the Don’t Worry, Be Happy crew of being self-centered and lacking in empathy, yet that, too, is overly simplistic.
See, sometimes the reason people shy away from acknowledging heavier, “negative” emotions isn’t because they don’t care. It’s because they care too much, and they’re afraid that if they allow themselves to feel the lurking fear, grief, anger, shame, and/or guilt, they’ll drown in it. I call this type of avoidance Fearful Positivity.
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